Am working at the moment on collating all the resources I've written about consent so as to make them available to youth workers, teachers and parents in the near future. I had intended to write some pieces here about girls stuff after starting with boys stuff but am full of consensual thoughts so girls will have to wait...
Above is my favourite consent video, it's funny, elegant, sweary, and completely instructional without preaching. Incredibly most young people I come across have never seen it so pass it on if you love it too.
Consent is a gnarly emotive subject and for most adults it's one of the ones we feel at sea about (a lot changed in a short time) and so we don't have conversations with our small ones until it's too late.
We have long taught our girls not to get raped/assaulted. The times (and laws) are changing to focus on teaching perpetrators not to rape/assault. This sounds simple and obvious but actually requires a massive cultural and relational shift and produces surprising reactions in most of us...
Can you be asking for it if you wear a short skirt?
Should you expect sexual activity at the end of a date you paid for?
Can two drunk people consent to sex?
What about one drunk person and one sober person?
If you flirt all night and get into bed with the person at the end of the night, can you still refuse sex?
If you don't hear a 'No', does that mean you're good to go?
Do some women need persuading? Often a 'No' eventually becomes an 'OK then...'
Much more to come....
Above is my favourite consent video, it's funny, elegant, sweary, and completely instructional without preaching. Incredibly most young people I come across have never seen it so pass it on if you love it too.
Consent is a gnarly emotive subject and for most adults it's one of the ones we feel at sea about (a lot changed in a short time) and so we don't have conversations with our small ones until it's too late.
We have long taught our girls not to get raped/assaulted. The times (and laws) are changing to focus on teaching perpetrators not to rape/assault. This sounds simple and obvious but actually requires a massive cultural and relational shift and produces surprising reactions in most of us...
Can you be asking for it if you wear a short skirt?
Should you expect sexual activity at the end of a date you paid for?
Can two drunk people consent to sex?
What about one drunk person and one sober person?
If you flirt all night and get into bed with the person at the end of the night, can you still refuse sex?
If you don't hear a 'No', does that mean you're good to go?
Do some women need persuading? Often a 'No' eventually becomes an 'OK then...'
Much more to come....
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